My friends seem to be super mum but I wasn't?

there are so many different factors that make up your indivudual parenting experience that its really unfair to compare them in this way. for example: do both parents have experience with kids/running a household, are there other children, is there family or friends to help, how often are you entertaining company, how busy is your social schedule, does your baby like to be held lots, does your baby sleep through the night, do the parents share nighttime childcare responsibilities, did you have a difficult recovery from pregnancy or labor, baby blues, how are your eating, exercise, and grooming habits. ALL of these things will effect how much time and energy you are able to dedicate to housework. ask yourself if you're ok with the fact that you chose to spend more time bonding with your baby than washing laundry. don't beat yourself up for not being a work horse. if it makes you feel better, my experience is that i only dedicate enough time to keep my household functional. i'm a much better mom when i'm well rested and not stressed out rather than when all the dishes and laundry are done.